Outstanding asks, commitments and follow-ups
for this peer. "Mark resolved" dismisses an item permanently.
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Classification
Only personal · romantic gets plans,
drafts, voice retrieval, push & cadence pressure.
Push notifications
On = a new inbound here fires a lock-screen push
with a pre-baked draft, 24/7 (silence on the phone via Apple Focus).
Off = silent. There is no auto-promotion — only peers you toggle on
here ever push.
Lifecycle
Stage history
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No stage transitions recorded yet.
Last 3 arc_state transitions, newest first. Logged automatically when a Hermes refresh changes the stage.
Auto-on for family & historical. When on, this
peer is never pulled into voice retrieval or used as a sample.
Kill switch
active · mute (silent) · pause (no drafts) ·
presence (pause + no refresh) · off.
Cadence threshold override
Blank = per-channel default. This value is read
by the inbox red-flag, so it changes real behaviour.
Public profile signals
No profile signals captured yet. Pull her bio, declared kinks/limits and "looking for" from the platform so the brain can anchor on what she says she wants.
Weekly check-in opt-in
30 min, once a week. A space to bring feelings
without consequences. Notes build up so you can see patterns.
No weekly check-in set. Pick a day and time below — you’ll get a push 5 min before, every week.
History
No check-ins yet.
Current plan (conf 0.92)
Where it stands: Cooling. She replied warmly 4 days ago then went silent after he sent a casual check-in.
What's blocking: Withdrew engagement after his message.
Next move: Send one-line 'How are you?' with no question, then wait. If she engages, move to a soft-probation routine. If she does not engage within 48 hours, pivot to the 'What is your availability?' line, then immediately go quiet for a week.
Hard constraints: Do not ask how she is doing again until she responds to the first 'How are you?'. Do not message her again after the 'What is your availability?' question until she responds.
Expected register for next reply: dom-command