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Active 2026-09-22
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September 22, 2026
Hello
15:37
Good girl. I like a woman that can follow directions.
15:38
lol that just makes me want to be defiant
15:39
Go ahead.
15:41
I’ve been on quite a rampage recently.
15:42
Meaning?
15:42
Using my subs to release some stress. Correcting, punishing, degrading.
15:44
Hm, we will need to talk about limits before you do that. How long have you been a Dom?
15:48
Oh yeah, are you going set curriculum for me?
15:53
It might be helpful if you could give me some guidance on your expectations and how you think I should structure things.
15:54
The limits conversation is important when starting with a new Dom or sub.. you should know that.
15:55
The answer is “No, Sir.”
15:55
if you’re going to vet me, you’re going about it the wrong way
15:55
to answer your question, even though I’m inclined not to I’ve been doing this for 25 years
15:55
Apparently not long enough because you’re already making me feel unsafe.
15:56
maybe if you just relax and let me take the lead you’ll feel safe instead of coming in and trying to dictate how things go. I’ve already told you that trust is central to how I do everything and nothing will happen that you don’t agree to.
15:56
I’m not there physically I don’t know your full name and I don’t have your phone number. There’s no reason for you to feel unsafe.
15:57
If I ask you to do something and you don’t want to do it, you don’t do it. It’s a simple as that.
15:57
Now do you mind if I continue?
15:58
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15:59
Sorry.. the brat in me is strong.
16:07
It’s been a while since I’ve been with a Dom
16:07
How many Doms have you had?
16:08
A few
16:10
That’s a very vague answer. You asked me a question and I was very specific and accurate with you.
16:11
Do you not remember or are you trying to control my perception of you?
16:11
You kicked the hornets nest of an unknown Dom. Not knowing what the outcome was going to be. You presumably wanted to find out how I would react and now you’re finding it out so you’re just going to have to weather the storm.
16:13
Maybe a little of both.. if I’m being honest.

I have had a couple of them but it has been a long time, 5+ years since.
16:17
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16:20
I don’t tame brats I break them. And use what’s left over. You are accelerating that process.
16:22
I am trying to answer you.. I have quite a lot of experience. There was a time I was very active in the community. I’ve been through training before but like I said it’s been a while. My last Dom hurt me and broke my trust.. this is the first time I’ve even tried talking to a Dom since then.

I am more of a brat than a sub.. I’m guessing that’s not okay.
16:27
🎵 [Audio]
16:30
I have a ton of experience with brats. I don’t need you to determine whether or not you’re a good fit for me. I will decide that on my own.
16:32
I train other Doms. I help subs vet their Doms. I’m very involved in the lifestyle. My therapists are submissives. I’ve been going to therapy personal and couples for about 35 years. I put my submissives mental health above my own when I’m able to do so. as long as protecting their mental health isn’t to the detriment of my own.
16:36
This is all information. I typically don’t offer upfront before a sub has answered any of my questions to my satisfaction, but I’m doing so to try and demonstrate credibility so that you will be just a little bit vulnerable and give me some information about you that I can actually use.
16:37
I want you to look at how you started this interaction. Look at the second and third messages you sent to me and then I want you to think about how you set the tone for how this is going to go. If you want to see my soft patient understanding side you’re not requesting that. What you’re asking for is the side of me that’s going to deal with the brat in you.
16:40
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16:40
Hey I did want to let you know work just got busy so I’m going to be away from my phone for a bit.. trying to be transparent.. hope that’s okay. Feel like I’ve done everything wrong so far
16:44
I’m not being impatient and I haven’t pressured you to respond more quickly
16:44
Take your time
16:44
Thank you
16:45
Most of the sub/Dom have been a structured. Rules in the home/bedroom and outside of the home. I’ve never done total power control.

I’ve had a 4 doms that I can remember, 3 didn’t last long. We just didn’t connect. The other was a longer relationship that ended when he cheated on me. He gave me rules and some guidance, would punish when I broke a rule.

At this point in my life I’m not sure what I would be comfortable with giving up control to

.. you know I was listening to your message and trying to reply along with it but oh my god. You’re so fucking rude. I am confident because of the experience I have. I’ve told you that I’ve been hurt and so it’s hard for me to just open up and tell you fucking everything. You’re coming at me so aggressively and that’s the wrong fucking approach with me. You’re not even trying to talk to me you’re just talking at me then calling me a liar and a fake. If you’re so happy with all the subs you have and no one has ever left you.. go be happy with them because fuck you.
17:11
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