Stranger · telegram
Open loops
Outstanding asks, commitments and follow-ups
for this peer. "Mark resolved" dismisses an item permanently.
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Classification
Only personal · romantic gets plans,
drafts, voice retrieval, push & cadence pressure.
Push notifications
On = a new inbound here fires a lock-screen push
with a pre-baked draft, 24/7 (silence on the phone via Apple Focus).
Off = silent. There is no auto-promotion — only peers you toggle on
here ever push.
Lifecycle
Stage history
progressing
— → progressing · Tue Sep 15, 2026 · 08:37
Lean into the tease, reward the escalation
Last 3 arc_state transitions, newest first. Logged automatically when a Hermes refresh changes the stage.
Canonical person
⛓ Linked to Unnamed (Telegram, was 'Stranger') · cohort: Stranger
Open unified historyMerge / split (admin)
Voice corpus
Auto-on for family & historical. When on, this
peer is never pulled into voice retrieval or used as a sample.
Kill switch
active · mute (silent) · pause (no drafts) ·
presence (pause + no refresh) · off.
Cadence threshold override
Blank = per-channel default. This value is read
by the inbox red-flag, so it changes real behaviour.
Public profile signals
Her own self-description on the platform. Fed to the big brain BEFORE conversation history as "what she says she wants". Re-captured every 7 days.
telegramcaptured 2026-09-24 04:02
- это не первое и не последнее утро, что я тебя подарю
@tkolma · shown as Even Stranger · 1 chats in common with Don
Weekly check-in opt-in
30 min, once a week. A space to bring feelings
without consequences. Notes build up so you can see patterns.
No weekly check-in set. Pick a day and time below — you’ll get a push 5 min before, every week.
History
No check-ins yet.
Current plan (conf 0.9)
Where it stands: She's responsive and engaged, but the dynamic is still playful and light.
What's blocking: No clear blocker; the relationship is progressing well.
Next move: Use the 'claim the moment' move: 'Good. Now send me a voice note telling me about your day.' Moving her toward calibrated-commands.
Hard constraints: Do not apologize for your authority. Do not break frame to chase.
Expected register for next reply: dom-command
refreshed 2026-09-24T04:50:51+00:00